Writings on Love, Health, and Wellbeing 

Journal Articles

PACT Couple Therapy

PACT Couples TherapyRelationships Are Difficult - But why?Dr. Stan Tatkin addressed this important question at his TedX talk in Kansas City; click here  to view his video.   PACT PACT stands for Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy. Developed by Stan...

3 Relationship Mistakes to Avoid (And Solutions for When You Can’t)

Learn about three relationship mistakes, how you can avoid them, and how to fix them if they arise. Published in online magazine Spirituality & Health.

Your Nervous System Is at War: How to Negotiate Peace

Trying to manage your nervous system properly? This article will help you understand your nervous system better and provide effective solutions for managing it. Read the article at Spirituality & Health published on March 23, 2021.

How to Nudge Your Partner Into Starting Couples Counseling with You

Relationship on rocky ground? Here are 3 ways to nudge your hesitant partner into seeing a couples counselor and getting back on track. Published in Your Tango online magazine.

How to Face the Fear of Being Alone

Do you get overwhelmed by the fear of being alone? Many people value their alone time, but for others, being alone creates distress. Here are 5 strategies to soothe your worries. Published in Your Tango online magazine.

Secure Attachment for Couples: Think Like Anchors

If you are able to understand your attachment style, you can then create a healthy and strong relationship. Learn more from my article published by Spirituality & Health on December 10, 2020.

Islands, Waves, Anchors: Why Your Attachment Style Matters

Discover attachment styles and how they contribute to relationship security. Read the full article published by Spirituality & Health on December 10, 2020.

Is Shame Keeping Your Partner from Healing?

Learn ways to support a partner burdened by shame. View the full article published by Spirituality & Health on October 11, 2020.

How Couples Can Repair Past Mistakes and Reignite Love

Relationship Rupture? Use this model for making repairs that stick. Published in Your Tango online magazine.

5 Tips for Couples Living Together Again After a Trial Separation

Make sure your reunion is a healthy one by following these 5 strategies. Published in Your Tango online magazine.

We Do: How We-ism Can Make Your Relationship Work

Understanding the difference between We-ism and Me-ism is key to a lasting relationship. You can read the whole article I wrote on this topic published by Spirituality & Health on September 3, 2020.

5 Ways to Create New Things to Talk About With Your Partner

This article addresses what to say when you run out of things to say with your significant other. Read it now at Spirituality & Health published on July 26, 2020.

Why Is Your Partner Always Lying to You?

Your partner is not only lying to you, they are forcing you to believe things about yourself, themselves, and your relationship as a whole. Learn about the things they are trying to manipulate with this article written for Spirituality & Health published on July...

Growing Apart? How Couples Can Revive Their Emotional Connection

If you’ve been feeling distant from your partner, you can find creative strategies to reconnect in this article. Published in the online magazine Spirituality and Health February 9, 2020.

Navigating Sex During Perimenopause

Couples can have a satisfying sex life during periods of hormonal change. This article describes useful approaches that will deepen your physical intimacy. Published in online magazine Spirituality and Health April 2, 2020.

5 Ways to Resolve Anger in Quarantine

If tensions are running high between you are your partner, learn how to manage anger constructively by following the suggestions in this article. Published in online magazine Spirituality and Health April 22, 2020.

Can Stress Make Me Sick?

Yes! Chronic stress and worry can increase hormones that inhibit disease fighting cells. As noted in Good Housekeeping (February 2017 issue) optimism and passion for what you do are known to boost production of feel good neurotransmitters like serotonin, which have an...